How Are You?

Monday, January 31st 2011

I asked permission from my boss yesterday if I could take today off and she said "absolutely". I was sure glad because I ended up staying in bed until late afternoon. I got up a couple times, but quickly went back to the only place I could find comfort- my bed. I don't know if my pounding headache, sore throat, dwindling voice and heartburn are all because I've caught an illness or they're the result of exhaustion and sadness.

Just like yesterday, I thought it might help to get some fresh air and since I hadn't eaten all day, I walked to the sandwich shop 2 blocks up the street.

The man who made my sandwich was really friendly and kept asking how I was doing, how my day was going, etc. I then placed a $1 tip in the tip box at the register and he said, "Thank you, much appreciated" as he nodded to me.

This reminds me of something I noticed the past couple of days. You know how it's the common gesture to ask others "How are you?" or "How's it going?"? I realize the question might not be asked out of true caring of how someone is doing and rather used as an acknowledgment that you're there, but I learned that the best answer is a positive one.

I haven't given this much thought because usually I am doing fine and that's my answer. But the past couple days, the truth is, I'm not doing well or good or fine. So do I answer dishonestly? I looked it up and the answer is yes. Your answer should be positive regardless of how you're really doing. And that's what my answer has been for people like the guy at the sandwich shop.

I find it difficult to avoid the truth, but I guess in the end, why would anyone want a depressing answer? They probably don't. So that's why it's best to make them feel better and reply, "Fine thank you. How are you?"

Peace :)